Boys Clubs Can Show Women A New Way!

BOYS CLUBS CAN SHOW WOMEN A NEW WAY!

I am going to start with a bold statement: Boys clubs can show women a new way! Yes, I said it. There is something about the boys club that has enabled them to be successful even when their approach is often driven by ego, competiveness, bullying, negative masculine power & a weak & scarcity culture. Yes we have seen them do it over and over again, in business in particular. I do however think they are onto the one thing that women in business missed. They embrace the ‘have your back mentality’, the ‘support your own first’ & the stick together mentality, they compete with each other but in the end they stick together.

Now, this wasn’t our fault as women because we had been such a minority in corporate environments and our true essence had been suppressed since way back when (yes that still comes into it today, it gets passed from generation to generation, its in our bones). We tried to fit into the boys club and the only way to do that was to take on what they did, we tried to become them & that was how it had to be for a while. In that though the supportive pack mentality never came with us. We were a minority & we were made to believe those positions were scarce and in that we ended up competing against each other for those top spots.

We think we need to take on the warrior mentality but it is not our natural state of being and what happened in the process we lost our way trying to survive. By competing, being jealous, wanting what they have, taking down others or not embracing each other in our most wonderful state, exactly as we are, we miss the potential there is for all of us. We miss developing each other. We miss the growth potential for us all because we are driven by fear.

Let me make another bold statement; THE OCEANS AROUND THE WORLD COULDN’T HOLD ALL THE POTIENTIAL THERE IS FOR WOMEN IN THIS WORLD, WE JUST NEED TO BE OPEN TO A NEW WAY OF SEEING OURSELVES & AND A NEW WAY OF SEEING OTHER WOMEN!

So let me remind you, the force of women in the workplace is building, the management and leadership positions and women who have started their own incredible businesses is growing but to get more of us into these position we need to change the way we think about each other in these environments. We have been trained into thinking for a very long time, generation to generation, that there isn’t enough to go around, that we have to play small, that we have a place, that we are not anything except a body, Well it starts today: this is just not true.

We as women are going to be our most wonderful selves our unique amazing selves, intuitive, open hearted, empathic & heart leading but to do that we need to support each other. We need to encourage and I mean really encourage each other. I sit with clients all day who have the belief that they are not enough, they have no value or worth, they don’t put themselves first, they suffer the woman’s guilt phenomenon (this is a whole other blog). They don’t believe in themselves to shine. Well, it doesn’t have to be that way and it starts with you and how we as a group support each other & raise each other to our empowerment for a better life and while we are at it we also make room for more men to step up in a positive & healthy way as well.

Now I know I am not the first woman on this bandwagon and this is not saying what the women did was wrong or the men for that matter, it was what how it was. There are women who support this cause all over the world. I would also like to admit that I have been one of those women at many times through out my life who hasn’t supported other women. It does make people uncomfortable to hear the truth about themselves in this way, me included but we need to start somewhere. My bandwagon is about empowering you as a woman in a way that doesn’t walk all over other people to succeed and if someone else is succeeding that doesn’t mean they are a threat. It’s not about teaching you to get to the top the old way, its about embracing you exactly as you are in all your power, truly putting yourself first so you can share yourself with the world, that in itself has you at the top.

I know there are a lot of other components that come into play with working in an organisation & running a business for any person but it’s hard enough so why add in not supporting each other and make it even tougher. All it takes is awareness & empathy and it starts with you & I. Two women at a time! Supporting each other! Come on join the club!

With Gratitude

Eiran

Holistic Counsellor, Corporate Consultant
Eiran Trethowan is owner for Open for Life offering Holistic Counselling & Business, Corporate Consulting Services.